77- Teen Suicide Prevent with Dr. Mark Goulston

77- Teen Suicide Prevention with Dr. Mark Goulston

By Bryan Carroll CFMP, NTP, FAFS

June 27, 2019

Teen suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death in Washington State for ages 10-24, and it is the 3rd leading cause of death nationwide.

It is a tragic epidemic that not only harms those who attempt suicide, but all the friends and families as well.

However, most of those who commit suicide will never know how they meant to the people around them. And for those who attempted but did not succeed, they worry that others are fearful of them killing themselves, when what they really want is to be seen.

So how can we do a better job at making the loved ones in our lives feel "felt"?


How Can You Make Others Feel "Felt"?

This was the ultimate question for the entire episode. There is a difference in feeling "understood", and feeling "felt".

Dr. Mark Goulston learned these differences through working with a patient who wouldn't even make eye contact with him. That patient was going through the normal process of talking about her feelings when something came over Dr. Mark, and he could literally feel how she felt inside her own body.

That moment changed everything for him. He then understood how to connect with his patients, which he shares in more detail in this episode.

What To Expect From This Episode

  • What it means to "feel felt"
  • How 7 Words can break through the moods of teenagers and get them to talk with you
  • Ways to use these strategies even if the teens are sick of dealing with you
  • How we can do a better job of communicating with our kids, friends, and family


  • [4:15] Dr. Mark Goulston shares his backstory on his own struggles with depression
  • [9:00] "When someone sees a future for you, sees value in you, and you don’t have to do anything which is all you feel you are capable of, and then they go to bat for you, it flips a switch."
  • [12:00] Dr. Mark had a patient who taught him how to make people "feel felt"
  • [15:30] This sentence with his patient was enough to completely switch how he would connect with other patients
  • [19:00] The "7 Words" method allows you to catch the attention of the teen, and allows you to break into their walls
  • [19:55] Here are the 7 words: Hurt, Afraid, Angry, Ashamed, Alone, Lonely, Tired
  • [25:00] Can you continue to use the 7 Words, or will it eventually gloss over teens
  • [30:00] Why do kids need other people to see the potential in them, and why can't they see it in themselves
  • [36:00] How can we utilize the 7 Words to do a better job of checking in with our friends and family
  • [40:15] Should people who work with those who are contemplating suicide have had their own experiences with depression and suicide so they can connect better
  • [44:30] One of the best ways to connect is to be excited just to see someone

Resources From This Episode

Some of these resources may contain affiliate links, which provides a small commission to me (at no extra expense to you).

  • What's Driving the Rise of Mental Health Issues and Suicide in Teens? - Read Here
  • Stay Alive Video Series - Watch Here
  • Books Written By Dr. Mark - Read Here
  • Why People Kill Themselves (It's Not Depression) - Read Here

Transcript For Episode (Transcripts may not be 100% Accurate)

Learn More About Dr. Mark Goulston

Learn Ways to Connect Better With Your Children So That We Can Prevent Teen Suicides

Learn Ways to Connect Better With Your Children So That We Can Prevent Teen Suicides

About the author

Bryan Carroll CFMP, NTP, FAFS

Bryan Carroll is a certified Functional Medicine Practitioner and Movement Therapist who helps the outdoors community to reduce injuries and improve their health so they can get back to exploring nature. His big health crisis from mold exposure taught him the importance of finding the root causes to illnesses so you can take back control of your life. He is also the host of the Summit For Wellness Podcast.

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