There are stages to move past betrayal that Dr. Debi Silber will teach us

134- Critical Stages to Get Through Betrayal with Dr. Debi Silber

By Bryan Carroll CFMP, NTP, FAFS

November 5, 2020

We've all experienced some sort of betrayal. It could be a loved one that told others one of your secrets. Or it could be your maid of honor that never showed up to the wedding. What we do know is that betrayal hurts, and it takes some time to get over.

However, a lot of times we don't necessarily get over it, and that betrayal then shapes our new lives. It gives you a reason to push others away, or have a hard time of trusting others. In some instances, it can lead to personal self destruction, where you go down a path of drugs or alcohol, or even use food as your escape.

Dr. Debi Silber explains to us that there are different stages of betrayal that we go through to get over it. However, often times we get stuck at stage 3, and we can be there for decades. Learn how to move through post betrayal syndrome and create a new life that is based around healthy habits.

What To Expect From This Episode

  • Critical symptoms that indicate you might be in post betrayal syndrome
  • The stages of betrayal that we get stuck in
  • How to move forward and heal from betrayal
  • How understanding stages of betrayal helps with growth and can even help you to reconnect with the betrayer


  • [0:00] Welcome to the Summit For Wellness Podcast
  • [2:00] How did Dr. Debi Silber start working through betrayal
  • [3:15] Are there hidden types of betrayal that aren’t often recognized
  • [4:30] Is one large betrayal worse than mini betrayals
  • [5:30] Betrayal doesn’t just impact your emotions, it leads to post betrayal syndrome
  • [6:45] Does our brain suppress the feeling of betrayal over the years
  • [8:30] The predictable timeline of post betrayal syndrome
  • [9:05] Stage 2 is where we are shocked and blindsided
  • [10:00] Stage 3 is the survival stage
  • [12:00] Stage 4 is finding and adjusting to a new normal
  • [13:15] The 5th stage is where healing, rebirth, and a new world view will happen
  • [14:15] Can you have a betrayal from our life experiences, not just from what someone else does to us
  • [16:15] The 3rd stage is where most people get stuck and never break free of
  • [17:30] Is it difficult to admit your betrayal when you are in stage 3
  • [20:00] If someone doesn’t recognize they are stuck, they will not be able to move on from stage 3
  • [22:45] If you are the one who betrayed someone else, what stages do you go through
  • [25:15] Final thoughts from Debi Silber on betrayal and how to find a community to support you
  • [26:45] Are there any betrayals that are completely unforgivable
  • [27:45] What does Debi do each day to improve her own health
  • [28:15] If you know something you will say is honest yet may hurt someone, is it worth saying

Resources From This Episode

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  • Take Dr. Debi's quiz to see if you have been impacted by betrayal- Take it Here

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About the author

Bryan Carroll CFMP, NTP, FAFS

Bryan Carroll is a certified Functional Medicine Practitioner and Movement Therapist who helps the outdoors community to reduce injuries and improve their health so they can get back to exploring nature. His big health crisis from mold exposure taught him the importance of finding the root causes to illnesses so you can take back control of your life. He is also the host of the Summit For Wellness Podcast.

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